Couples Coaching

Are you in a relationship that feels stuck, painful, or like it’s slipping away?

✨ I help couples caught in cycles of conflict, shutdown, or disconnection find their way back to safety, joy, intimacy, & connection.

This might sound familiar…

  • You’re stuck in the same arguments over and over—and nothing ever really gets resolved

  • Even though you're together, you sometimes feel completely alone

  • One of you shuts down while the other escalates, and it leaves you both feeling unheard and frustrated

  • You feel more like roommates than partners

  • You try to repair—but end up making things worse

  • You’re afraid that if something doesn’t change soon, you’ll lose each other

You’re not alone—and your relationship isn’t beyond repair.

If you're in a relationship that feels more draining than nourishing—where conflict, shutdown, or emotional distance has become the norm—you’re in the right place.

Whether you’re fighting constantly, walking on eggshells, or just feel miles apart—there is another way.

When things feel stuck, it’s not because either of you don’t care or your relationship is doomed.
It’s because you're caught in survival strategies—protective patterns shaped by old pain, attachment wounds, and nervous system overwhelm.

✨ You don’t need to keep doing it the same way. You don’t need to figure it out alone. I offer another way forward.

🌿 This isn’t surface-level work—and that’s the point.

You’ve probably tried talking it out.
Read the books. Practiced the “right” way to communicate.
And maybe it helped—until you found yourselves back in the same loop.

That’s because the problem isn’t just how you’re communicating.
It’s what’s underneath the communication:

  • 💥 The attachment wounds that get activated in conflict

  • 🛡 The protectors that shut down, lash out, or try to control

  • 🧠 The nervous system patterns that keep you in fight, flight, or freeze—even when you don’t want to be

This work gets to the root.
It’s not about fixing symptoms—it’s about transforming the deeper patterns that shape how you show up with each other.

It’s not about better scripts—it’s about deeper presence.
We don’t just “fix communication.”
We cultivate intimacy, safety, and attunement—the conditions that make real connection possible.

We work somatically, relationally, and experientially.
Not just to feel better temporarily—but to create real, lasting change in how you love, respond, and relate.

Through this work, you can begin to:

  • Communicate without spiraling into conflict or shutdown

  • Repair after misattunement—without it taking days (or weeks)

  • Understand the deeper patterns and protective parts that keep you stuck

  • Build emotional safety so you can be honest without fear

  • Reconnect physically and emotionally in ways that feel nourishing and mutual

  • Feel more authentic and grounded in yourself—and in the partnership

This isn’t about forcing connection or repair—or pretending everything’s okay.

It’s about rekindling curiosity and co-creation, making the relationship feel alive again. An invitation to rediscover intimacy.

Ready to stop spinning in the same painful cycle—and start building something real?

Let’s get to the root and rebuild a relationship that feels mutual, grounded, and alive.

  • Trauma-informed couples coach

  • Background in psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Polyvagal Theory, somatic work, & PTSD

  • 5 years facilitating narrative therapy groups at San Quentin

  • Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO) couples certification with the IFS Institute