
Couples Coaching
Are you in a relationship that feels stuck, painful, or like it’s slipping away?
✨ I help couples caught in cycles of conflict, shutdown, or disconnection find their way back to safety, joy, intimacy, & connection.
This might sound familiar…
You’re stuck in the same arguments over and over—and nothing ever really gets resolved
Even though you're together, you sometimes feel completely alone
One of you shuts down while the other escalates, and it leaves you both feeling unheard and frustrated
You feel more like roommates than partners
You try to repair—but end up making things worse
You’re afraid that if something doesn’t change soon, you’ll lose each other
You’re not alone—and your relationship isn’t beyond repair.
If you're in a relationship that feels more draining than nourishing—where conflict, shutdown, or emotional distance has become the norm—you’re in the right place.
Whether you’re fighting constantly, walking on eggshells, or just feel miles apart—there is another way.
When things feel stuck, it’s not because either of you don’t care or your relationship is doomed.
It’s because you're caught in survival strategies—protective patterns shaped by old pain, attachment wounds, and nervous system overwhelm.
✨ You don’t need to keep doing it the same way. You don’t need to figure it out alone. I offer another way forward.
🌿 This isn’t surface-level work—and that’s the point.
You’ve probably tried talking it out.
Read the books. Practiced the “right” way to communicate.
And maybe it helped—until you found yourselves back in the same loop.
That’s because the problem isn’t just how you’re communicating.
It’s what’s underneath the communication:
💥 The attachment wounds that get activated in conflict
🛡 The protectors that shut down, lash out, or try to control
🧠 The nervous system patterns that keep you in fight, flight, or freeze—even when you don’t want to be
This work gets to the root.
It’s not about fixing symptoms—it’s about transforming the deeper patterns that shape how you show up with each other.
✨ It’s not about better scripts—it’s about deeper presence.
We don’t just “fix communication.”
We cultivate intimacy, safety, and attunement—the conditions that make real connection possible.
We work somatically, relationally, and experientially.
Not just to feel better temporarily—but to create real, lasting change in how you love, respond, and relate.
Through this work, you can begin to:
Communicate without spiraling into conflict or shutdown
Repair after misattunement—without it taking days (or weeks)
Understand the deeper patterns and protective parts that keep you stuck
Build emotional safety so you can be honest without fear
Reconnect physically and emotionally in ways that feel nourishing and mutual
Feel more authentic and grounded in yourself—and in the partnership
This isn’t about forcing connection or repair—or pretending everything’s okay.
It’s about rekindling curiosity and co-creation, making the relationship feel alive again. An invitation to rediscover intimacy.
Ready to stop spinning in the same painful cycle—and start building something real?
Let’s get to the root and rebuild a relationship that feels mutual, grounded, and alive.
Trauma-informed couples coach
Background in psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Polyvagal Theory, somatic work, & PTSD
5 years facilitating narrative therapy groups at San Quentin
Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO) couples certification with the IFS Institute